Have you ever wondered why fighting with your partner can be SO exhausting?!

September 2, 2016

Not all fights are the same or turn out the same. According to Dr. John Gottman, how a fight starts determines how it will end. Fights with your partner that feel confusing, draining, exhausting or frustrating happen because there are 4 things that creep into your discords that make them go south. Dr. Gottman called them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, because they predict the end of a relationship. They are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. Thankfully, Dr. Gottman also came up with four things (or antidotes) you can do to counteract the Four Horsemen (see below)!



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